Trans Talk on Yik Yak | I just found out about “t rage”, and my partner (who I’m about to move in with) is starting T in a few months. Is this something I have to worry about? We’re excellent at communication and we’re both usually very good at managing our emotions.

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Trans Talk 10w

I just found out about “t rage”, and my partner (who I’m about to move in with) is starting T in a few months. Is this something I have to worry about? We’re excellent at communication and we’re both usually very good at managing our emotions.

Anonymous 10w

by and large not a real thing, often times just a convenient excuse for shitty men (cis and trans)

Anonymous 10w

T rage is a myth made up by transphobic c*s to discourage trans guys from taking T. It stems from the belief that since cis men are usually angry, it’s because they biologically produce more testosterone than women. This is not true. Your partner will probably be irritated at most, because of the sweatiness, greasiness, and increased acne. Any excessive anger or frustration is coming from somewhere else and is not normal on T.

Anonymous 10w

I really cannot handle a partner/living with someone who “rages” due to some past experiences. Is t-rage just like stronger-feeling anger, or is it like true RAGE? What exactly happens?

Anonymous 10w

My experience was with middle school levels of maturity so it’s likely not an exact match but I think it can definitely be managed by emotional maturity and patience. Like it’s less like you’re the hulk or smth and more like you’re on a hair trigger and sometimes you feel angry for no reason. It honestly sucked but I’m a trans woman so that might play a part in my feelings towards it lmao. But yea as long as yall are good at communicating and having healthy outlets I wouldn’t worry about it.

Anonymous 10w

Ok thank you all, I think I heard the name “rage” and got super scared. My partner is VERY slow to anger and even slower to show it, with excellent coping skills, so it seems I don’t have a ton to worry about. Thank you!

Anonymous

#1 10w

Like if it was genuinely relationship destroying levels of rage I don’t think our species would’ve survived cause we’d just keep kicking out all the men/boys going through it😭 It can be difficult but especially being adults I think it’s a manageable challenge.

Anonymous

#2 10w

hormonal fluctuations and puberty can cause emotional volatility—in anyone. women are just often socialized to repress it or only express it in certain ways. i was a much more irritable, “rage”-y person before i started t (i have PMDD from hell). after starting t i’m a much more patient, calm, understanding person/partner. also, as an adult, i can still control myself and step out of situations which are triggering. there is a noticeable difference when i’m off hormones, but i just adjust.

Anonymous

#3 10w

This is literally so contrary to what I got told during my first puberty I’m ngl. I’m not saying you’re wrong cause frankly I have no idea but it’s something I’ve not heard directly before😭

Anonymous

#1 10w

afaik T only indirectly causes anger

Anonymous

#1 10w

That is a good point! My threshold for “relationship destroying levels of rage” is just a lot lower than most people’s, which is mainly why I was worried.