Anonymous #5 20h

there isn’t however personally I don’t view myself as a transman i’m just a man. I have no problem with our community but I just don’t like using labels because in my experience once someone knows you as trans it’s all they’ll see and associate with you.

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Anonymous #5 20h

i'm perfectly fine being a trans woman. my point is that transfem and amab erase my womanhood

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Anonymous #6 20h

I agree with this. That’s why I believe that the only ppl that should rlly know if you’re trans is the person you’re sleeping with(family will already know).

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Anonymous #5 20h

Agreed.

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Anonymous #5 20h

even then if it's just a hookup and you're post-bottom surgery i'm not sure you need to say.

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Anonymous OP 20h

Whenever you’re hookup I believe that you should tell ppl whether you're clean or not but if you're a post up trans person then it's none of their business whether you’re trans, because how would they know anyways. But overall it's safe to still tell because there's still a chance you could run across someone you hooked up with or they might just find out from someone else.

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Anonymous #7 20h

Yeah. I can’t stand when ppl call ppl 18+ boys or girls it’s so annoying. I also can’t stand it when ppl whom are 18+ but in their early 20’s don’t believe they’re grown.

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Anonymous OP 17h

isn’t “transfem” just an umbrella term which Includes trans women?

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Anonymous #8 17h

as a self-identified tfem, it can be used as a form of degendering for individual binary trans people

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Anonymous #8 17h

Hi I’m not OP but most binary trans people don’t like transmasc or transfem because it’s more of a nonbinary term. And most of us don’t wanna be “fem” or “masc” just male or female. Man or woman.

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Anonymous #7 17h

yeah, and many individual trans men/women don’t identify with the “tmasc/tfem” labels, either. masc/fem generally refers to presentation (even if it’s different for “tfem/tmasc”), so implying they transitioned to a more masc/fem identity while presenting the opposite makes them uncomfortable

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Anonymous #1 17h

hell, I know a non-binary person who doesn’t self-describe as “transmasc” since they don’t present masc at all and feels like it’s a misnomer for it. doesn’t matter if its identity “falls under” tmasc, they don’t *personally* identify that way, and as its friend ik the terms they prefer

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Anonymous #1 8h

ohhh, yeah, I can absolutely see how that would be the case. I’d been thinking in terms of group categorical labels instead of how one is referred to as an individual, thanks for clearing that up

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