
if you’re going inpatient you don’t have your pick. you will only get actually committed if you’re an immediate danger to yourself or others and where you end up depends on it being the first place that has a bed and is covered by your insurance because beds are scarce. if you end up in an inpatient it’s because you were such an immediate threat that a doctor signs off on you being taken into the custody of a psychiatric unit
if i were you i would be looking for outpatient programs or therapy groups, if you know a queer or queer friendly mental health worker i would ask them for recommendations. you can also try looking for therapists that treat queer clients and asking them for recommendations via email and chances are they’ll respond and point you in the right direction if they see it. you should also definitely get a therapist if you don’t already they’ll know more and be able to guide you
a ward is a section of a hospital. a locked ward like one used for inpatient psychiatric treatment can’t also do outpatient because the space can’t really be used for more than one purpose since it needs to be secure. most hospitals that have an inpatient program will usually offer outpatient care in the form of therapy groups or partial hospitalization as well
but generally you’re right. if a hospital had a good inpatient program that’s safe for queer patients, it’s likely they have a similar outpatient program. and in my experiences outpatient programs like partial hospitalizations tend to have less instances of patient abuse because there is less of a power dynamic