
idk, reciprocal antagonism and confidence has worked for me. it's not about humor, it's about power. once they realize they have no power it tends to calm down. especially if you make them realize you can upset and hurt their feelings worse - having more power over them than they do over you. a couple of my distant transphobic uncles leave my niece alone now because they know they'll have to deal with me humiliating them in front of our family