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So..I want to be here because I’m accepting my nonbinary self and that feels trans but different if that makes sense I hate fem things, love masc things but I’m not a man, and way too scared to dress the way I want bc I’m not out to everyone, advice?
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Anonymous 1d

Hey! Trans is an umbrella term, you can choose to identify with it or not, but it just means “not your AGAB.” You don’t need to fill a binary to be in the space!

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Anonymous 1d

even if you’re afraid to dress the way you really want to, maybe now is a good time to at least get a little more experimental with your presentation. if nothing else, you could probably build up your confidence a bit just by demonstrating to yourself some different ways that you could look

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

What does this mean?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

like trying out different, more masculine clothes/fits. seeing yourself in the mirror dressed more masculine (even if it’s just in private) can help you more precisely place your target for when you *can* dress how you want. if you already know what you want, I’d still do it for the gender euphoria lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

oh sorry, didn’t see this reply earlier basically, if you’re scared to Fully present the way you want to, you could still make slight changes—like wearing more masc-looking accessories, adding a couple items to your wardrobe that fit with your current style but are a little more in line with your aesthetic goals, styling clothes you already own in new ways to create a different outfit silhouette, doing makeup that leans more towards androgyny than conventional femininity etc

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

cause if you aren’t able to present the way you want to, your mental image of yourself ends up being somewhat restricted by what you’re accustomed to seeing in the mirror. so when you expand your mental catalogue of images of yourself (like by experimenting with your look), you expand your idea of who it’s possible for you to be. creating a toolbox of self-image options you can circle back to and/or build off of as a self-actualization exercise

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15h

But how do you style clothes in a way that is a different silhouette? What accessories would those be?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

some pants can be worn with the waistline either at your hip or your waist; or a shirt can be worn either loose or tucked into your pants, or with the neckline gathered more towards the front of your neck vs the back of your neck—that kind of thing, details like that can significantly alter the impression of a given outfit based on the silhouette as for accessories, idk, depends on what aesthetic you’re going for? gotta make it your own. the gendering of accessories is a highly subjective thing

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

some examples: a necklace that’s just a chain of some sort, no pendant, is a popular masc accessory. there are plenty of rings—usually wider ones without jewels embedded—with a gender-neutral appearance. watches are genderless but they’re a significant fashion detail for some men & mascs, etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

Thank you

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10h

🫡

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