Trans Talk on Yik Yak | I unintentionally offended a fellow trans friend of mine (we’re both mtf) because I made self deprecating remarks about my own body and she got offended because she felt reminded of her own insecurities. When she told me how she felt I ofc apologized...

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I unintentionally offended a fellow trans friend of mine (we’re both mtf) because I made self deprecating remarks about my own body and she got offended because she felt reminded of her own insecurities. When she told me how she felt I ofc apologized...

Anonymous 5w

u did the right thing and apologized don’t beat urself up too bad. u should probably look into therapy tho to find better coping mechanisms

Anonymous 5w

…and told her I didn’t mean it. She did accept it but I feel so horrible for doing to. I self deprecate as coping mechanism and I’m so inept to how I come off. I’ve lost many cis friendships in similar ways before I dunno how to handle anymore.

Anonymous 5w

If it’s a coping mechanism, actively practicing a different (less harmful) coping mechanism will eventually cause your brain to shift away! The classic for this specific one is to say something sarcastically positive about yourself, but there are definitely others that you can look into! (It does take a lot of practice but I believe in you)

Anonymous 5w

Im gonna be honest, while its nice you apologized i really dont think you should feel anyway about it. It was a joke about yourself not aimed at them, just cause they got offended about their own insecurities shouldnt make you feel anyway. Its just like boundaries, you can’t force them on someone else. You can have them for things you won’t stand for but no one can make you not do this thing because they don’t like it🤷🏼‍♂️ But i also am done caring about others and their feelings sooo idk

Anonymous

#1 5w

I’ve been doing therapy a long time. It really hasn’t helped me much. Then again I’ve been unusually stressed and agitated this past couple weeks. I’m trying to work on how I come off to people but I still slip up.

Anonymous

OP 5w

It might also mean you need to switch therapists, I find having someone more informed/specialized with queer and neurodivergent patients has made a big difference

Anonymous

#2 5w

Ur right I probably should

Anonymous

#3 5w

Ty, it’s just that I self deprecate bc I have a lot of deep rooted self esteem issues.

Anonymous

#4 5w

U have a point actually. This friend in particular can be rather sensitive to things like this. If I didn’t like or care about her I wouldn’t have felt so bad. But the other commenters also have a point I should probably find a healthier way cope with my insecurities.