What helps me is to imagine every other social and situational pressure suddenly disappeared; no one else existed and no opportunities would be lost by existing in whatever identity you felt comfortable with, and you could magically shape yourself into whatever most suits you, then try to imagine what you’d look like. Easier said than done, since we’re all raised in a very gendered world, but it helped me come to grips with being trans and separate fear of loss from actual doubt.

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