Trans Talk on Yik Yak | hey yall, this is gonna be a long post but i need some advice cuz its been eating me up inside. im a trans man and my bf is a cis man. he respects my name and pronouns and goes out of his way to correct others on them too. but a few nights ago he told me-

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Trans Talk 1w

hey yall, this is gonna be a long post but i need some advice cuz its been eating me up inside. im a trans man and my bf is a cis man. he respects my name and pronouns and goes out of his way to correct others on them too. but a few nights ago he told me-

Anonymous 1w

You haven’t finished it but we gotta dump this guy. 4 billion dudes on earth, no need to subject yourself to an ass. If he doesn’t see you as a guy, you don’t need to stay with him and suffer. Tell him to get fucked and find someone new

Anonymous 1w

that he will never truly be a man to him. he said he will respect my identity but ill always just be feminine to him (apparently my feminine traits are sending the "your month your _" and "your initial your _" stuff from tiktok). he told me that i wasnt born a man and i dont know how men are treated growing up, so id never really be able to experience that. i really really love this guy, but this was such a huge blow to me. im incredibly dysphoric in my own body and hes even said before that he-

Anonymous 1w

i don’t know if this helps give perspective, but as a trans guy who has a cis boyfriend, my bf very enthusiastically affirms that he *does* see me as a guy and openly supports me getting top surgery. being trans should not affect your partner’s support for you, and they should be happy for you in your transition

Anonymous 1w

what the fuck I'm so sorry you have to deal with this fucktard, dump his ass expeditiously

Anonymous 1w

he has straight up said he will never see you as a man. you have to decide whether this instance of love or self respect and self love is more important to you.

Anonymous

OP 1w

is unsure if he wants me to get top surgery. he says he couldnt do anything about it since its my body and he respects that but im so terrified he will just start hating me and leave. TW: S/A hes also told me that he if my transness is because of my SA trauma that being a man "wont change how people view you." i have been out for 7 years at this point. even if it was linked to my trauma, that just feels so disrespectful to say.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Yea we gotta Kirk this guy I think

Anonymous

OP 1w

Did we date the same guy because this is almost word for word exactly what my ex said to me. It’s easier said than done obviously but I’d say dump him. He’s said it himself, he’ll never actually see you for who you are, so there’s no point in wasting any more time on him. I’m really sorry you had to go through all that

Anonymous

OP 1w

Regarding the tiktoks plenty of my cis guy friends send me that stuff. No need to feel bad. But you're a guy. Don't keep yourself in a situation where the person you're dating thinks you're a girl.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Also I suggest trying a t4t relationship

Anonymous

OP 1w

Oh last thing. Saying what he said about top surgery is a little manipulative.

Anonymous

OP 1w

you need to break up with that man asap

Anonymous

#6 1w

it sounds like you’re really in love with this guy, but if he loved you as much as you love him he would see you as a guy and support you. im sorry op :( i think you should break up with him

Anonymous

OP 1w

dump him. he loves the idea of the “girl” you not YOU. real love transcends gender, the right person will love the real you.