Anonymous #2 1w

How could i be clearer honey

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Anonymous OP 1w

What specific situations are you talking about? You likely have something in mind. I don’t think you’d take issue with a kid keeping the secret that they have their teachers cell phone number to call if their parents start abusing them. There are clearly exceptions to sweeping statements like this. So what are you actually getting at?

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Anonymous OP 1w

it shouldn’t be vague, it’s not a teachers place to tell their students to keep lessons/conversations from the child’s parents. as someone said the literal only potential exception is if the child is being abused but even then not sure why the teacher would be telling their student to keep it a secret

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Anonymous OP 1w

Sometimes it absolutely is, there’s a reason teachers and other professionals need to consider nuance. Idk if you just don’t have an active imagination or what but I can think of a whole bunch of reasons. 1. Lots of issues around abuse like others have mentioned 2. Maybe the kid is interested in reading about lgbtq people and the parents are known to be hateful towards that. 3. Maybe the kid is interested in studying a religion that the parents are known to be hateful towards.

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Anonymous #2 1w

4. Maybe the kid has an interest for learning science or some other field that the parents have discouraged because they don’t want the kid going to college. 5. Maybe the kid missed class to help out a friend in need and doesn’t want their parents to find out

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Anonymous #2 1w

There’s a whole lot of extraneous situations where lying is sometimes the right move. Which is why we need to trust our educators

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Anonymous #2 1w

go to a professional. if you start with confiding in a teacher that’s fine but if a child is telling their teacher that they are in distress then the adult should always escalate it to the parents or an actual professional if in a dangerous situation

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Anonymous OP 1w

sometimes parents ARE the dangerous situation. Sometimes there are no channels are professional help. Teachers are mandated reporters for a reason, and discretion is key.

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Anonymous #4 1w

hence why they should always escalate the situation, whether it be to the parents or to licensed educated professionals if the parents are not safe

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Anonymous OP 1w

Why tf would a teacher take an issue to the parents if the parents are the issue? Also in what universe are other qualified adults always available to offer assistance to struggling kids? Your argument needs to touch grass here man

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Anonymous #2 1w

bro… again, if the parents aren’t safe then escalate it to actual professionals who have the actual resources and knowledge and understanding to help get the child out of the situation, I’ve said that three times now and a trusted adults responsibility is to get the child the help that they need. A school teacher isn’t trained or given the resources to do that in dangerous situations, and it’s not their place in safe situations. it’s inappropriate

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Anonymous OP 1w

Dude how is a school teacher not a professional? You know that they get mandated reporter training on this exact thing for a reason right? Yes if some other more qualified adult is available to help then they should be involved. But you know what our education system looks like, those people often aren’t available. This is the nuance I’m saying we need to consider. In those situations the teacher is the one who needs to act and maybe keep a secret, yes

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Anonymous #2 1w

A math teacher for example isn’t trained on what to do if a child is in a mental health crisis…

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Anonymous OP 1w

They have basic training in most cases and besides that they’ve chosen to take rock bottom pay to serve the public by educating kids. They’re far more qualified than many

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Anonymous #2 1w

Not professionals whose actual job it is, and they don’t know better than the kids parents (so long as the parents are actually good parents). how this is something yall disagree with is beyond me

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Anonymous OP 1w

See right there you included important context that your original statement failed to, that’s why I took issue with it in the first place. There are situations where the parents are the best people, or where some third party adult is the best person. But there are also plenty of situations (I gave several examples) where the teacher ends up being the best person.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I disagree with the sweeping generalization of the statement; I’m not saying it can’t be true sometimes

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Anonymous #2 1w

You disagree that in general it’s better to go to the parents of the child in need/a licensed professional who has the tools training and resources that teachers don’t have

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Anonymous OP 1w

I don’t, nothing I’ve said should give you that indication. I agree with what you just said; I would’ve agreed with the post itself if you said this instead of the og statement

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Anonymous #2 1w

Then idk what sweeping generalization you don’t agree with, this has been my point the entire time. the genuine only situation where a teacher should tell children to keep things from their parents is in abuse, and even then the most helpful thing a teacher can do is get the child in front of a professional whose job it is to help kids in need

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Anonymous #7 1w

Ugh yes that is exactly what I’m saying😍

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah I don’t think people are interpreting your post correctly. Sure you could’ve added more context to make it more clear, but the idea is pretty well displayed. I used to work in a daycare, parents need to be told things. Obviously sometimes you don’t tell parents certain things, but those situations do not exactly arise often.

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