Anonymous #1 11w

I try

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Anonymous just_peachy_ 11w

Even when there is trauma involved. And I speak from experience. One upon a time I had very bad anger issues, as a young kid, due to trauma. Like, enough to get me detained by the police. Don’t hear me bitching.

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Anonymous just_peachy_ 11w

Emotional issues are hard to deal with, and if you’re working on it and seeing progress that’s one thing. But lots of people do nothing, and I find it unbelievably pathetic.

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Anonymous mushy.the.mushroom 11w

You still have to remember some people were raised in environments that made getting help unacceptable. It takes a lot of support to undo that conditioning

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Anonymous og_beer 11w

Right but ultimately if you mistreat people as an adult that’s their own problem. Like you can have a brutally unfair childhood, but once you’re an adult the way you treat others is your responsibility and no one else’s. IMO.

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Anonymous mushy.the.mushroom 11w

That’s right, but doesn’t mean they still don’t deserve to be supported and aided in changing and becoming a better person. You don’t just wake up at 18 like “ah yes, I am an adult. Time to fall out of the coconut tree and become a fully functioning person”. That shit impacts your behaviors for a LONG time. And takes years and even decades to undo. And doesn’t happen on its own, especially when they were conditioned to believe those behaviors were acceptable

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Anonymous og_beer 11w

Yeah but I’m also not saying they shouldn’t get help and support

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Anonymous mushy.the.mushroom 11w

Like not saying people who are being mistreated by someone have to stick around to help the person mistreating them, that’s absolutely not true in any capacity. But just to say we shouldn’t discouraging people who are willing to (and just chucking all “bad” people off a cliff never to be dealt with again bc they’re “bad”)

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Anonymous og_beer 11w

Right but I feel like I made a pretty solid exception for those people. We can cut out “and seeing results” if you think I should be casting a wider net.

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Anonymous og_beer 11w

But to be clear I agree

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