Anonymous #1 1w

Wow, that must have been an incredibly conflicting experience. I do plan to have kids, but not for at least 7 years, so I think I’d just be relieved. But I’ve got my IUD so I don’t have to worry about it.

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Anonymous OP 1w

It was! I’m totally okay, btw. I’m lucky to have a partner who was down for whatever I needed in that moment. It ended up being a decidual cast (don’t google unless you have a strong stomach), but I immediately sobbed when I saw it. I thought that was a part of me that could’ve been a fully formed human. Still, if I actually got pregnant I would have an abortion because I can’t give a child the life they deserve. It would be miserable for everyone involved

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Anonymous #1 1w

Oh my god, did it hurt any more than usual?

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Anonymous #1 1w

I guess it just feels like I’m a failure for it, if that makes sense. If that was actually a miscarriage. Like I failed to bring this developing baby to fruition. It’s a really strange feeling that I can’t quite put into words, but I hope no one else has to go through that :/

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Anonymous OP 1w

I was going to DM you so it’s not so TMI on main, but it did! It was like a REALLY intense cramp. I was on the toilet thinking it would be a normal cramp, but it just started getting worse and worse out of nowhere. Then I *felt* it slide out, like what a tampon feels like when you remove it, and the pain quickly went away after. It was more alarming than anything since I’d never seen that before

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Anonymous #1 1w

That’s really interesting, and I have a feeling it’s a really common experience, but maybe there’s some solace in that? I wonder if I’ll ever go through it. (I really appreciate you sharing about the deciduous cast too, because apparently it can happen around IUD removals and I didn’t know. It’s good to be mentally prepared!)

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’ll say I was on a 3 month BC pill, so I was supposed to have a period every 3 months. Apparently that didn’t work for me and my body. I wouldn’t do it again even with the fact of not having a period more than 4 times a year :,)

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Anonymous OP 1w

I wonder if it’s connected to long term BC like that. I had nexplanon just before, got it removed, then immediately switched to the 3 month period pill. It’s not nearly as horrifying if you know what’s going on. I haven’t had it happen since, but I kinda wouldn’t mind having my period all in one go 😭

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Anonymous #1 1w

That’s terrifying! I’m so glad you’re okay! I always had really bad cramps before my IUD (curled in a ball crying unable to function for 3 hours every period), so hopefully I’d be prepared for that part…but I haven’t had a period since June 2022 with my IUD and I haven’t had any spotting or bleeding at all for over a year, so now I’m wondering what could be growing up there 💀

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Anonymous #1 1w

I still get what seems to be ovulation pains and I used to get a tiny bit of old brown blood every few months that would only show up for one bathroom trip, so there’s definitely a possibility and I’m glad I know it’s a thing now 😭

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yeah honestly if that’s how every period went and we were used to it I probably wouldn’t mind 😅

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Anonymous #1 1w

I just looked it up and it is more common with progestin only BC like IUDs and implants, so stopping nexplanon definitely could have done it.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Ugh girl I get it :,) I have PCOS and before I got diagnosed I would be passing out and throwing up from my cramps. Being a woman is genuinely so hard and confusing for no good reason. I didn’t have a period at all after 4 months of spotting every day on Nexplanon, so I stocked up on cheap bulk pregnancy tests to take every month just to make sure 😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

That would make a lot of sense. I quit all hormonal BC in like 2021 since I’d been on some form of it consistently since I was 13. It sucks to say I’m lucky I have a fiancé who doesn’t mind wearing condoms when it’s needed and would do whatever I needed if I got pregnant, but I’m loving life without birth control

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