religious shame. many feel sexual desires and often on the male end have kinks that sometime lean into the extreme but they push it down because it’s “sinful” to have such lustful desires. so they stick with the vanilla and feel unfulfilled, leading to sexual frustration which bleeds into other areas of their life. also there is a large queer population amongst conservatives that repress it for the same reasons as above, but that frustration turns into homophobia bc they resent open queers