Anonymous #2 14w

I mean I do think it’s my fault, but like the role of government is to provide for society and make shit easier. So I’d want to make it so future men and future women have WAAAAAY less shit to deal with. Bc it sucks.

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Anonymous smithereen 14w

I know I can ask more like specific questions about it too. I don’t mean to sound like I’m anti-therapy. I go and it helps manage my anxiety, but it’s still not something I like doing, so I wonder if that’s also holding me back.

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Anonymous OP 14w

It’s normal to not like it, but nothing worth doing is easy

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Anonymous drums_of_liberation 14w

Once you start looking at dating as an evolution of friendship instead of a bag to get then I think your life gets easier

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Anonymous smithereen 14w

yeah you have to stop seeing all women as potential partners and just as people

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Anonymous #2 14w

I feel like I struggle with like, flirting but not as much befriending women. It sounds weird too because they often don’t seem to really get why I feel awkward around girls in that way, compared to how I’m around normally. For a small period of time, I used to think that was because girls just didn’t like big dudes though too 💀

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Anonymous smithereen 14w

Big facts

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Anonymous #2 14w

High Key

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Anonymous OP 14w

Sounds like part of your anxiety & problem is your own self image. Like the way you see yourself causes you have self doubt leading to anxiety. Outside looking in of course but that’s what it sounds like to. Self confidence makes a huge difference. I’d say try doing things that helps you feel more confident about yourself

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Anonymous drums_of_liberation 14w

Idk if I’d fully agree, but the advice is solid. Personally, I think I’m cool and look pretty good and really just don’t want to go to the gym all the time, but that doesn’t mean that the way people tend to treat me or view me doesn’t make me feel like people generally feel a similar way about someone’s weight. I don’t know if that makes any sense or not.

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Anonymous drums_of_liberation 14w

It feels like “I like my product how we’ve been making it for years with some improvements, but same old packaging, but if the packaging doesn’t sell, even if I like it and think it’s amazing, eventually it makes sense to change it so more people buy the product”

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Anonymous OP 14w

well totally keep being yourself in a way that makes you happy- sacrificing yourself for the sake of dating just drains you and ends up in pain

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Anonymous OP 14w

First of all what 2 said about being yourself. As for the gym I didn’t mean go to the gym although that’s what a lot of guys do. I met whatever makes you feel better about yourself. But if you like who you are & feel good about yourself that’s what matters. You don’t want people who don’t like you for you anyways

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