We’re not taking it the wrong way you just, frankly, aren’t a very good person. You can wiggle and weasel and say you don’t mean it, but this “lifestyle” is no more an option for me than liking the opposite sex is for you. It’s just not. If you hate my “lifestyle”, you hate me. That’s it. Full stop. You don’t get to be a bigot and pretend you’re some good dude lmao.
And plus, there are plenty of gay people who don't participate in orgies or any of that. Most of them are just dudes who like other dudes. And there are plenty of straight people who do drugs, too. Like just because some gay men live an alternative lifestyle doesn't mean all of them do. It's just a false stereotype.
Literally though, being serious about it, my homophobic straight father was a pedophile who went to creepy sex parties, while most queer parties I've been to didn't have any sexual activity, and when they do it's responsibly confined to one designated room or area so you aren't exposed to anything if you don't want to be