Anonymous #3 20h

- a bi man Yeah that kinda sucks I guess

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Anonymous themind._.ofhueyfreeman25 20h

It’s not bigotry. You are allowed to choose your parter based on sexual orientation. It’s stupid to call someone a bigot because they want a romantic partner than aligns with themselves romantically. You are allowed to only choose straight partners.

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Anonymous #4 20h

Apples to oranges. Someone’s race is a characteristic that occurs outside of dating while being straight, gay, or bi is EXCLUSIVE to dating.

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Anonymous OP 20h

Let’s say a woman finds a man. He’s everything she wants. She finds him attractive, they have common interests, shared goals ect the full 9 yards. But she rejects him solely because he’s bi. U don’t think that’s an issue? Ur partners sexuality doesn’t necessarily have to align with urs as long as they find u attractive…

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Anonymous OP 20h

As a bi person, it’s really not

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Anonymous #5 20h

Especially because they always assume that their partner is the one being penetrated or being the “submissive” one. Idk why there is this huge stigmatization around gay men and the obsession with male penetration. It NEEDS to be studied

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Anonymous themind._.ofhueyfreeman25 20h

Exactly! Personally I’m a verse, as are most bi guys probably. The obsession around penetration goes far beyond just gay stuff though, there’s a huge stigma in our society that sex = penetration. I’ve done basically everything but that with a guy and I’d say that was still sex.

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Anonymous #5 20h

Here’s how I am understanding your argument: Some straight women who don’t want to date bi men do so because of homophobic reasons. Therefore, it is okay to label ALL straight women who don’t want to date bi men as homophobic. It just isn’t the correct way to combat the issue.

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Anonymous OP 20h

Not really, my argument is that if you do not want to date someone that you are attracted to and who is attracted to you, for the reason that they also like the same sex, that is homophobic.

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Anonymous #5 20h

Also, it is okay to view certain sexual acts as gross because not everyone is into the same thing and that is okay. With that being said. It is important to respect those who have different interests than you as long as they are not causing harm.

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Anonymous #5 20h

No it’s not. Many people just want to date a straight person for religious reasons and are still very respectful of other people’s personal choices.

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Anonymous OP 20h

Religious reasons? Like what? Surely not homophobia right?

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Anonymous #5 20h

Cause it is imo. I’d argue the stigma around men being penetrated is also rooted in misogyny. It’s assumed that we do sex to women(hence why many ppl feel like women can’t rape men.) so a man being in a “woman’s role” during sex isn’t masculine or manly in anyway. Cause there’s a stigma around men getting pegged by women too

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Anonymous OP 20h

as a black and bi person i fear it’s exactly the same thing lmao

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Anonymous #5 19h

Still not homophobia but I guess we have different definitions of it. Homophobia is a fear of anyone who is not straight resulting in a lack of respect and opportunities in society. That is much different from dating. Dating is extremely personal and should not be other people’s business to judge if it’s a consensual relationship. People are entitled to the to choose a partner that reflects their own values and preferences while still respecting those who do not fit into the person’s dating mold

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Anonymous OP 19h

That is not what homophobia is. Homophobia is fear *and disgust* that leads to not only lack of respect and opportunities, but also violence, disenfranchisement, dehumanization and more. Also who said anything about respect? If you think that someone’s sexuality is disgusting that’s not respectful, no matter how civil you are about it.

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Anonymous OP 19h

But both are something outside of someone’s control that impact their dating life

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Anonymous OP 16h

go ahead and explain what sexual acts you’re referring to as gross, and why; considering this is a discussion on the willingness of straight people to date bisexual people. and this fucker wants to act like they’re not homophobic.

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Anonymous #7 15h

You think I’m projecting but I’m literally just trying to say that it’s okay to think a sexual act you are not interested in is gross. Straight people may think gay sex is gross. Asexuals may think all sex is gross. Gay people may think some straight sexual acts are gross. There is a clear difference between respecting others and forcing someone to be in a relationship with someone else who doesn’t align with your sexual desires.

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Anonymous OP 15h

did I say the word “projection” in my comment? and WHY would you think “gay sex” is gross? (also, it’s just sex you stupid fuck, sex between two people of the same sex. not “gay sex”) look at that, a homophobe who can’t comprehend or accept that they’re a homophobe.

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Anonymous #7 15h

And I’m not saying you should only date people who do align with your preferences. I’m just saying that people are free to decide whether or not they want to make that decision for themselves

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Anonymous OP 15h

and no one said you couldn’t, we’re just saying that your reasoning specifically is homophobic as fuck. let me guess, do you consider yourself an “ally” too? because as someone in the community that would be funny as fuck

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Anonymous #7 15h

Did I say gay sex is gross? No I did not. All you want to do is argue and intimidate me into complying with your ideology. You are assuming at I think a specific sexual act is gross when that was never my argument in the first place. Stop jumping to conclusions and if you don’t want to have a productive conversation, then please just shut up.

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Anonymous OP 15h

and you never said why you think “gay sex” (fucking idiot, that distinction in and of itself is homophobic), is gross?

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Anonymous OP 15h

are you illiterate by any chance?

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Anonymous #7 15h

Huh, I don’t think it’s gross at all, you are arguing with a wall right now

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Anonymous OP 15h

again. do I need to walk to through the implications of your statements as you defend not wanting to have sex people with who have happened to have sex with individuals of the same biological sex? either illiterate, or egregiously arrogant.

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Anonymous #7 15h

I didn’t say it was gross. You are the one that’s illiterate. Some people thinking it’s gross is not the same as me thinking it’s gross.

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Anonymous #7 15h

to have sex with people who have** a bit of a mistype on my part, apologies.

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Anonymous OP 15h

and again, the distinction between “sex” and “gay sex” is homophobic, in and of itself.

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Anonymous OP 15h

so why would you even cite that homophobic bullshit in support of your claims, if you do not yourself hold those beliefs?

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Anonymous #7 15h

No, I don’t see what’s wrong with my statement. You can maybe clarify why you disagree with it and that’ll help me understand why you don’t like it.

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Anonymous OP 15h

how are you, a straight person, going to tell us what is and isn’t homophobia. utter stupidity.

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Anonymous #7 15h

I never said I was straight (but I will lyk I am). Yes, straight people should listen to those who are not straight to identify homophobia, but in the modern political landscape, the word has basically been used to describe anyone who is straight and prefers to date straight people. The word has gotten so watered down that it puts most straight people in the same category as people who want the government to ban anything not straight.

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Anonymous #7 15h

How is that homophobic? It’s just a description of preferences based on orientation. It is not intentionally derogatory. Call me stupid all you want, but that tactic isn’t going to work with 90% of people you debate.

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Anonymous #7 15h

And yes, I would have answered your entire question if there wasn’t a character limit to every reply

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