Ask Men on Yik Yak | Update 1: since I’m a coward, I told my manager and he’ll speak to both of us on Monday even though I said I didn’t want to directly confront the guy and make things awkward. Y’all might be a lil disappointed in me, but that’s all I could muster up:/

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Ask Men 8w

Update 1: since I’m a coward, I told my manager and he’ll speak to both of us on Monday even though I said I didn’t want to directly confront the guy and make things awkward. Y’all might be a lil disappointed in me, but that’s all I could muster up:/

Ask Men 9w

How do I make my older coworker (guy) understand that no you can’t ask ‘so what time are we gonna go horseback riding’ to someone who’s around your child’s age (18)? He’s probably just being nice, but I’m uncomfortable now and I can never speak tf up:/

Anonymous 8w

We are proud of you! It’s hard to stand up for yourself especially against these sort of things but it’s best to snip it in the butt ASAP and end it as quickly as possible so if it escalates you will have proof “enough” to be protected

Anonymous 8w

Still proud of you that you stood up for yourself and took steps to get this resolved, that takes courage and you should feel good about that!

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Anonymous 8w

OP don’t listen to what people are saying. It’s not your fault. He is being creepy and you did the right thing. Don’t be ashamed for setting boundaries either.

Anonymous 8w

Still proud of you!

Anonymous 8w

Hey, I was #5 on the original post. I regret being dismissive of your feelings and jumping to conclusions about your situation. I know I was criticizing the phrasing in one of #2’s sample responses, but I hope my comments didn’t contribute to you not feeling comfortable directly confronting or turning down the guy. You deserve to feel comfortable at work and not be subject to unreciprocated advances, and I hope the situation resolves itself.

Anonymous

#2 8w

🫶🏾

Anonymous

#1 8w

🫶🏾

Anonymous

forget_me_not 8w

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 8w

Thank y’all!!

Anonymous

#7 8w

Also, you’re not a coward for not directly confronting the guy. It makes sense why you would be scared to directly confronting him or turn him down when you don’t know his intentions or how he would respond. As a guy, I am privileged to not have the same fears for my safety as many women do in turning down advances from someone I am not interested in. I realize I wasn’t recognizing or acknowledging that when making my original comments, and I apologize for that.

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Anonymous

#7 8w

From a guy’s perspective, it can be frustrating when women don’t feel comfortable being direct with us, but I get that that’s more the fault of there being men who aren’t safe to be direct with than that of women.