Anonymous #1 8w

It is an assumption. You have to worry about your partner being faithful regardless of what gender they live with. It's pretty stupid in my opinion to think that a man is 100% ready to take the chance to pounce on his female roommate? If he wanted to date her wouldn't you think he would've tried before she started dating someone else? What if he's in a relationship himself?

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Anonymous OP 8w

Ok, it’s an assumption, don’t believe me🤷🏻‍♂️. And yes, I think it’s likely (though not certain) he probably has tried. Are you saying that should make her future bf feel more worried or less? And ok, what if he is in a relationship himself? Same question. (Though in all seriousness it’s a little like asking ‘what if he has a pet dinosaur?’; since I’ve NEVER met a woman who’d be even close to ok with her bf having a female roommate, so idk how he’d be able to be in a relationship.)

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Anonymous #1 8w

Well congratulations ig you've now met a woman who would be okay if her bf had a female roommate. As for the question about making her future bf more worried or less. I can see how that would raise some concerns but that's when trust comes in. I don't see it any differently than a women who gets hit on or asked out by the same male co worker she sees everyday. If you trust that won't ever turn into anything then why would it be different with the roommate?

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Anonymous #1 8w

All i'm saying it just seems like everyone in the comment section + you were jumping to conclusions when this is like a very nuanced discussion. There r so many factors when it comes to roommates. I'm not sure why you wouldn't ask follow up questions when it comes to something uncommon like men & women who aren't dating that live together. I'm asking a bunch of questions and if it seems like it's a situation where a potential romance/hook up would most likely happen then idk why i wouldn't trust

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Anonymous OP 8w

most likely NOT happen

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Anonymous OP 8w

Differenc is bc male coworkers are almost universal. Plus, I guess, the fact that she doesnt work 5-steps from her bed and doesnt usually go straight to work after arguing with her bf. But mostly it’s the first thing; 99% of single women dont have a male roommate, so it can be seen as an avoidable risk factor. But if you want a girl with no male coworkers u basically need an unemployed one, which is probably a much less attractive trade-off (though there are non-me guys who prefer it but y’know)

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Anonymous #1 8w

you'd prefer someone who is unemployed?

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Anonymous OP 8w

No, not at all. That’s why I said I know of “non-me guys” (meaning guys who are not me) who prefer it. Guys who ARE me (by which I mean, me) find employed women more attractive, personally

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Anonymous #1 8w

Oh, im sorry i misunderstood you

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