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If the other stuff besides emotional intelligence & not bringing childhood trauma into the relationship doesn’t matter, then how else do u decide whether to date someone besides those two factors?
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Anonymous 5w

If you get along

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Anonymous 5w

So much more: Goals for life, how they treat you, expectations in relationships, religion, political beliefs, how they treat others- there’s literally so many

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Anonymous 5w

clicking w someone’s personality? having stuff in common? sense of humour? life aspirations? worldview/values?

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Anonymous 5w

If we are headed the same way in life and have the same morals. Like a relationship will never work out if one person wants a quiet life in the country with no kids and the other one wants a life in the city with tons of kids.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I would say that’s strongly correlated w/ both of the factors I mentioned

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5w

Is it possible u still don‘t date them, even if they meet all of those things?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I mean yeah it’s still possible, like I’ve got a friend who meets a lot of those things but he’s like a brother to me. The idea of dating him is gross. (He feels the same about me) compatibility is still important

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5w

Is it cuz he’s not physically attractive to u?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

No? It’s not that at all he literally reminds me of my brother

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5w

Oh , sorry💀. There might be dome sort of biological reason for that actually. DNA too similar.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

*some

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

There’s also just some people you don’t click with romantically

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5w

I don‘t understand that. To me, if I find u physically attractive, ur a good person, and we have things in common, then I want to date u 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

That’s how it is for most people but I also have to WANT to date them. If I don’t see someone in a romantic light that just doesn’t change.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5w

Maybe this is an impossible question to answer, but why do u see someone in a romantic light or not?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

It has to be smthg biological, maybe deriving from evolution.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I have no real answer to that. They need to meet all my qualifications and I have to like them enough to want to get to know them deeper

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5w

This is where us men find ourselves lost. We don‘t know what to do differently/where we webt wrong when there‘s no logical explanation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

A lot of times there is a logical reason. You don’t fall in love with every pretty girl who treats you well. The same thing goes for women. People have things they need in relationships

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5w

I’m pretty sure I would fall in love w/ any pretty girl who treats me well

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