Anonymous #3 1d

So my word choice was problematic. I’ll think abt that next time

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Anonymous #3 1d

I don’t even think race is a preference because usually ppl that prefer certain ppl use it as a way to be racially targeted towards others. He could have just said he prefers to date his own race and leave it at that

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

Yes considering you said “and some Latinas”. So as long as those ppl look “white” or “white passing” you’ll date them and that’s a problem. Women of color’s features aren’t ugly. The more women of color try to look white passing the more it enables white supremacy ideologies

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Anonymous #4 1d

I honestly don’t find women of certain races attractive tho. I was responding to someone calling me a hypocrite for saying I don’t have standards when I do, saying that I often prefer women who are the same race as me

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Anonymous #3 1d

Not just white passing. Though yes, they often are

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

That’s still a problem

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Anonymous #3 1d

Why are you degrading races online and then turning around saying you’re a good guy

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

Bro. Stop digging yourself a bigger hole

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Anonymous #3 1d

I’m not good or bad. I’m just a guy

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

Nah you’re bad. And an asshole that gaslights himself into thinking he’s good

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Anonymous #1 1d

Yeah, I just reread the comments. I made this post as more of a general ‘two cents’ on the conversation

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Anonymous OP 1d

As you are welcome to. Sorry if this comment sounds accusatory, I’m just tired of dealing with him

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Anonymous #1 1d

No you’re so good. I enjoy commentary, critiques, and perspectives

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Anonymous #1 1d

Too bad

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Anonymous #3 1d

Yeah, I know I act like an asshole on here. I know I could be better than. But I’m not, so thus I am a bad guy to u

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Anonymous #1 1d

U don’t like my presence?

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Anonymous #4 1d

While I get this take, it’s also a waste of time, energy and focus trying to complain about someone else’s preferences when you could be focusing on the people that are already attracted to you instead.

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

Are you really asking that question? No, I think your discussions here are meaningless. You agitate and berate women, to what end? When you get constructive criticism or someone telling you you’re wrong you freak out. This whole race conversation started because you brought it up. You shoot yourself in the foot and then blame your looks or the dating sphere

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Anonymous #5 1d

True which is why I don’t complain about it. I just look at people who act that way like 🤨. And again it’s not about “preferences” it’s about when that preference becomes a requirement

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Anonymous #5 1d

Right? Like why do they care this much? I thought they would rather never hear me or see me let alone date me lol

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

You don’t have to be bad. Just be better than you were yesterday until you’ve been good for so long that you forget to be bad.

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Anonymous #6 1d

I’m already better in person

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Anonymous #5 1d

Calling out someone’s dating habits doesn’t mean we’re trying to date them ourselves… it’s simply a critique

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Anonymous #1 1d

I mean, it’s not like I would end up in a relationship with anyone on here anyway 😭. Sometimes I listen to criticism.

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Anonymous #7 1d

try to figure out why it’s harder for you to find your own race attractive. what experiences shaped that feeling? im black and for a while I swore off black men because i had been hurt by them. but that didn’t mean all black men were bad. i was hurt and projecting that pain onto an entire group

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Anonymous #9 1d

I don’t like the forced “ghetto”-ness, plus I’ve just never really found them attractive, though that’s more so the guys. Every once in awhile, as I get to know people then maybe, but it’s not like I’m choosing not to be I’m just not

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Anonymous #7 1d

yes i used to feel like that too when i lived in an area with a bunch of YNs. i moved to college and im surrounded by well mannered, sophisticated black men and im very attracted to black men now. you’re not attracted to certain lifestyles/attitudes. it’s not a race thing. the way i look at it is.. there are millions of [insert race] people there’s bound to be someone that meets your expectations. don’t completely write a race off

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Anonymous #12 1d

That or people want to date someone who knows the struggles they face themselves without having to educate them and feel like you’re “mansplaining” or feel like you’re being gaslit when someone says “oh I never faced that, you might be blowing it out of proportion” and you’re more likely to find that when you date someone that grew up in a similar way to you,

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

I agree with you boss. Not sure why it’s such a problem for others.

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

I’m the same with men. I only find a certain race attractive because I have my own standards. Other people can date those people. Obviously we’re not a match if my hormones do not react to one race as they do another

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Anonymous #3 1d

So it’s wrong to like Caucasian features now? But an Indian man saying he only likes Indian features would be normal and fine because that’s how it happens. Black guys say they only want a black girl.

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Anonymous cool_intellectual 1d

No you’re not you just don’t speak in public bc you know the way you speak is negative and derogatory. You even said you don’t talk to women in person so how would you even know if you’re good if you suppress your actual views to the public

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Anonymous #14 1d

Yeah so that’s still racist to say. And weirdly fetishizing. Idc what race a guy is that says it

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Anonymous #3 1d

But on the other hand some of you confuse preference for requirement. A preference means you don’t exclude entire races of ppl. Poli sci excludes entire races of ppl and fetishes parts of other women which is an issue. Just bc you prefer your own race doesn’t mean you find ppl of other races unattractive in its entirety. Like I prefer black men, bc I’m a black woman so I want someone that relates to my cultural background and struggles. Would I find other races of men completely unattractive no

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Anonymous #3 1d

And I’d still give those men a chance if I was given them at least

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Anonymous #16 1d

And even if it was the skin color, beauty is subjective, and most importantly people can't change their sexuality. Saying someone is racist for not being attracted to a certain race, is like saying a person is sexist because they're gay. A gay person can't all of a sudden become straight, they don't have a choice in their sexuality and what they're attracted to.

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Anonymous #7 1d

Ignore anybody who tells you it’s racist. It’s your life and what you want. People are too sensitive now. If you don’t get attracted to a certain race or are only attracted to one like…so what…that means nothing to anybody else and if they make it mean something, then they are sticking their nose into stuff that doesn’t involve them

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Anonymous #3 20h

How? Explain to me how? How is it racist if I don’t like black guys? Black guys make fun of me all the time because of being blonde and white. Why would I date someone who’s family often would dislike me and also someone that I’m not attracted to

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Anonymous #17 20h

It’s likely people who are crazy liberal that think it’s racist. Everyone is so scared now days and accuse racism on anything. Dude, like, I don’t like anyone that isn’t white. Have never. And have only been attracted to one black man who dressed and behaved like a white guy from the 70’s and it was just at a concert and said ‘huh that’s new’ but then he spoke and sounded unintelligent and have no longer felt anything for anyone not white.

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Anonymous #14 20h

I don’t hate anybody but I don’t want to fuck someone In not attracted to

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Anonymous #14 19h

Well considering you being white and blonde has literally no correlation to black ppls feelings whatsoever it’s known black men are more cautious to white women in general bc of racial profiling they receive from white ppl. You don’t live in their shoes to know that it’s better to be educated and informed on why black ppl have so much prejudice and caution to white ppl than to simply make black ppl as bad guys bc now you just look like you’re victim blaming

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Anonymous #3 19h

Especially after saying “I don’t like anyone that isn’t white” so why are you putting it on black men as if you’d date them? You’re just as racist. Ofc no black guy is going to be comfortable around someone that will potentially use their race against them. I wouldn’t date you either if I were a man

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Anonymous #3 19h

Oh honey my best friend has been talking about it with me as I showed her this. Btw she’s dark-skinned from Rwanda, Africa if you’re going to claim it’s a lie. She said that it doesn’t matter and people that freak out about it are sad. Oh and guess what, black men aren’t the only ones. That’s my example. And yep, I don’t date people that aren’t white, as they’re going to not be attractive to me. I don’t see any actors or actresses who are different skin colour to me as attractive- bc they aren’t

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Anonymous #14 19h

I don’t need to ‘educate’ myself on that because I’m already aware and even if I educate myself more that won’t change the fact that they aren’t attractive and I won’t date them

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Anonymous #14 19h

Girl we didn’t ask for your pity points. Aren’t you the same racist girl in here that uses the “I have black friends card” knowing damn well there’s no black African girl with you? Bc being African and African American are different and we have different cultural experiences being in America vs Africa. No one’s telling you this shit bc you used it in another racist post months before. THEY do not speak for you so stop trying to use other ppl as a scapegoat. YOU are racist

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Anonymous #3 19h

So honey saying “I don’t date anyone who isn’t white” when we’re speaking about noon white ppl and racial stereotypes is a tone deaf thing to say

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Anonymous #14 13h

i would want to know if a friend is only attracted to a certain race, especially if they aren’t attracted to black men because that tells me there may be stereotypes or biases influencing their view of black people. as a black person that’s naturally hurtful and offensive to me. if someone has no interest in questioning or unlearning those prejudices then they’re choosing to stay ignorant and that’s not the kind of mindset i want to be around.

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Anonymous #14 13h

and of course i have that same smoke for my black friends that say they wouldn’t date a white person

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Anonymous #18 12h

No. You never turn down your race. There would be a difference which would make you internally racist and biased of your own race which becomes common with racial stereotypes. But it’s okay to be attracted to those that aren’t your race as long as you aren’t actively tearing down your own imo

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Anonymous #3 12h

Which I think is fair! Like I’ve dated people of my race just lately (and currently) I’ve been seeing people of other races more often than not and it’s mainly been coincidence

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Anonymous #18 12h

I don’t see the harm in it bc there are people that don’t do within their race and it’s usually related to stereotypes of the opposite sex within their race or from trauma. Which is something to be learned from. But seeking others just out of coincidence isn’t a bad thing it happens

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