Anonymous #1 15w

kind of a long story unfortunately, i’m literally reeling rn

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Anonymous #2 15w

yeah 🤡 talk about being blindsided

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Anonymous #3 15w

not really but i’m trying my best! thank you for asking! 🫶

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Anonymous #4 15w

thank you girl 🫶 i tried my best

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Anonymous #5 15w

thank you 🫶 i’m trying my best rn

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Anonymous #6 15w

my jaw is also on the floor 😭

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Anonymous #9 15w

i wish it was a mistake honestly :’)

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Anonymous OP 15w

No because what if he thought you were too perfect and thought he wouldnt be able to measure up to your standards of him?

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Anonymous #9 15w

it’s a huge long explanation, but to keep it incredibly short, it’s completely in his head. he thinks he’s hurting me because he doesnt communicate as much as he thinks he should, and he’s decided that it’s best we don’t see each other anymore because he feels overwhelming guilt for it (despite my reassurance)

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Anonymous OP 15w

breaking up with me, he quite literally said: “i do love you, and i sure as fuck saw you as someone i could spend the rest of my life with”. so that was heartbreaking :’)

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Anonymous OP 15w

Nah that means he still sees you as someone he could spend his whole life but cant admit it to himself so he is lying to you and to himself about who and what he wants

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Anonymous #9 15w

i wish i could give you the story of our relationship in its entirety, but as someone who fell head over heels in love with him (unlike anyone else before), i feel as though i can see what he’s going through. he has trouble being vulnerable and open from previous experiences, and it still affects him unfortunately. if i think he’s honestly in love with me, which i do believe, i think he’s pushing me away due to his fear of abandonment unfortunately (and because he doesn’t want to hurt me)

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Anonymous OP 15w

he struggles with lack of control, and unfortunately feels that the only control he has in his life rn is over our relationship unfortunately

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Anonymous OP 15w

And yet he is still hurting you tho. I dont understand how he cant see that

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Anonymous #9 15w

he thinks that by removing himself from my life, it will hurt me less

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i’m trying my best to focus on me - if he comes back in the future then he comes back, but i’m not gonna count on it. i do just need to focus on me for now, focus on healing from him.

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Anonymous OP 15w

Girl we got you too. You can rely on all of us because we are here for you. You have time and space to heal from him

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Anonymous #9 15w

i truly appreciate it - it’s meant so much to me how sweet and kind everyone has been, both before with the original post and now! talking abt it helps my mind cope so much, and just seeing the reactions comforts me somehow as well ❤️

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Anonymous OP 15w

Awww 😌 Can you also give more updates too? Im so invested and I want to stay invested if thats okay

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Anonymous #9 15w

if there’s any updates (though i doubt there will be any from him, and as much as i know i’ll be tempted to break no contact, of which i already am, i have a friend who will remind me to not do so) then absolutely

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Anonymous OP 15w

YES I LOVE IT! I am so proud that you have chosen to choose yourself (even if its just your friend telling you to do it) because listen like this is progress! You are doing it so well with it!

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Anonymous #9 15w

thank you ❤️ i’m trying my absolute best, and it helps that i’ve done a lot of personal work on myself in the past, thankfully i was in a good place as an individual - so it’s difficult, but i know it could be muchhh worse

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Anonymous OP 15w

😌🫶🫶

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Anonymous OP 15w

i was horrified with the idea of being alone with my thoughts, so that helped a tad! my family and friends check in on me, and have been as supportive as they can be for my sake i only hope that he isn’t doing as horribly as i am (but at the same time i do? as guilty as i feel abt that). anyways, im doing ok despite it all, and if, god forbid, anything happens in our situation then ill be sure to update.

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Anonymous OP 15w

OP I've been feeling almost the exact same things from this post. 😔 I'm sorry...

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Anonymous #7 15w

i’m so sorry you’ve been feeling similar! if you need someone to talk to, i’m always here! 🫶

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