
Not trying to hijack your post at all, because a lot of it is a sort of fetishization, but I also think internalized misogyny contributes to it too. After all, if you see women as lesser, why would you focus on them as characters when you could write about men? And then because they write gay men from a woman’s perspective they fetishize it more, and more people see it, and the male characters are elevated and twisted in this weird cycle to the point where the gay man isn’t even a person
Anymore, just a collection of traits that someone else preferred. It’s like breeding animals in a weird way- the extremes are selected for in fic, and the normal everyday humanity is lost This is a long ramble to say you’re right. Again, sorry for hijacking I’m not trying to be annoying I swear
i understand your point that you're making and i think it could be very valid. i don't write fanfic myself so it's hard for me to offer reasonings but one thing could be that gay men understand how it feels to be fetishized and written about in a wrong way so they don't do it themselves? i'm not saying you're wrong i agree that what you said makes sense. i appreciate the comment