Yik Yak logo
Download TikTok Instagram X
Yik Yak icon
Join communities on Yik Yak Download
Girl Talk icon
Girl Talk 1w
She’s only been with him/ known him for 6 months
Girl Talk icon
Girl Talk 1w
My boyfriend proposed to me. I’m 20 he’s 21. I really want to spend the rest of my life with him but my parents keep telling me I’m too young to be engaged. We’re not planning on having the wedding till after I graduate. I really need some advice
comment

15
upvote 6 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 1w

My friend’s parents got engaged after knowing each other for 2 weeks and married within six months. Some people date for 10 years before they get married and they still get divorced. It’s less about timing and more about who you are as separate people and as a couple

upvote 9 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 1w

For me it’s financial independence. If they’re both financially independent then that’s something they are within their right to navigate (even if odds are it ends bad) but if the parents have some stake in this and are still supporting them semi financially, I can see why they would not support a six month relationship turning into a marriage 😭

upvote 2 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 1w

So? Why do you feel the need to point that out?

upvote -2 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

It’s very important information 💀

upvote 13 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

If they love each other and feel comfortable, why should the time matter

upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Still, it’s not your room to say that. And so what if it’s 6 months, it’s an engagement not marriage

upvote -1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

They don’t love each other, they love what ever they have seen so far, but to truly love each other you have to know each other fully and you can’t do that in 6 months. I’ve been dating a man for years and I still am learning things about him that I couldn’t have even dreamed about knowing 6 months in. Statistically people who get engaged young and people who get engaged fast are much more likely to divorce and within a few years.

upvote 4 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

It’s not my room to say that they’ve been together only 6 months?

upvote 3 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

You don’t know them personally, you have no idea what they feel for each other. I’ve read the comments and I think it’s fine

upvote -1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

If they wanted it to be known then they would have said it

upvote -1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

They did say it? In the comments? It’s not like it was a secret

upvote 6 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Why are you so butt hurt to highlight that?

upvote -1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Yes but it is MUCH less likely to get divorced if you date for 3 or more years before getting engaged, as well as waiting until after you’re 25. You also want to wait to make big life decisions after a traumatic event. These are just extra precautions to help prevent divorce and make certain it’s the right partner but that’s not saying you can’t find the right person. Could be right person but wrong time type deal.

upvote 13 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

They mentioned how they already said yes and just wanted advice on the parents, not their relationship

upvote 0 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Yes I’m aware that was after I made this post.

upvote 6 downvote