Anonymous #1 17w

girl that makes 0 sense 💀 "my bf threatened to kill me today" "well, has he threatened u before?" thats what u sound like btw

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Anonymous #3 17w

well that’s a situation that’s super extreme, i’m not talking about abuse. My friend acted like this when her bf said something racist in public. she said that he needs to stop being racist because it’s embarrassing and disgusting but he acted that way and made those types of jokes from the beginning when she met him.

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Anonymous #1 17w

but we literally dont know op or anything about whats going on in their relationship. We dont know if this is the first time their bf has said that to them or literally anything outside of the super small snippet of info op decided to give us so what gives us the right to judge a situation we dont even fully understand? u know ur friend, this is an anon app on the internet like y are we jumping to conclusions and giving out unsolicited advice in a judgemental ass way?

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Anonymous #3 17w

Yeah i understand, i was honestly just making a general statement. That’s also why i said it depends on the situation because we have no other context but what OP gave us. I didn’t make any comments on the other post.

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Anonymous #1 17w

and again, i wouldn't know that cause this is an anon app. All i know is op is calling out ppl coming after oop and that u disagreed, that only makes me think ur part of the group that is coming after oop 🤷‍♀️ i just don't think we should be coming after anyone (unless their one of the isms and phobics {no, not autism}) when we don't have all the context cause imo it can be more harmful

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Anonymous #3 17w

you're lowkey really slow for comparing homicidal threats to an ignorant man asking for head 😭😭😭

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Anonymous #3 17w

I mean, first off, the people saying “choose better” are being hella condescending and lowkey kinda victim blaming But if my boyfriend threatened to kill me, I’d be terrified and trying to get out of the relationship but would have to try to be careful for my physical safety, that’s not the same dynamic as if he disrespects my emotions like that I don’t fault her for choosing the guy, I don’t know their story, but she should probably try getting out of that relationship if she’s able to

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Anonymous #1 17w

Okay imma say this slowly for the dumbasses out there, men do not act like this when they first get with a girl. If they did no one would want them. No girl picks shitty guys, they pick guys that turn shitty/reveal their shittiness at a point where it is MUCH harder to leave the relationship. This is usually after the “I love you” stage, so that it creates emotional pain at the thought of leaving, but causes emotional pain at the thought of staying. So shut the fuck up

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Anonymous #2 17w

I don't know why you're being downvoted, she is remaining in a relationship with him and accepting that type of treatment.

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Anonymous #11 17w

It's almost like she chose to have a shitty bf????? No one made her date him??

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Anonymous #4 17w

See

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Anonymous #11 17w

I think it's possible to acknowledge that he's in the wrong and at fault here without treating her like a powerless victim who lacks the agency to choose who she allows in her life.

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Anonymous #11 17w

Honestly I think it's a little demeaning to imply that a woman has no choice over her romantic partners.

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Anonymous #10 17w

This is literally what I'm trying to say and nobody seems to get it. We're not just floating around landing in men's laps tf

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Anonymous #10 17w

No one’s treating her like a powerless victim… yall act like human beings are emotionless robots and with one harmful input we all are able to automatically turn off our history/connection/attachment to someone with the snap of the finger. Plus op never even said she was staying. Just a lot of assumptions to jump to “choose better”. That’s what men say fr

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Anonymous #6 17w

Imagine if people actually followed people’s advice to break up with someone for everything… news flash you don’t have to break up with someone and instead try to help them understand and improve…

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Anonymous #12 17w

I mean sure but not everything is this bad lol. There are some basic things you shouldn’t have to teach people

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Anonymous #6 17w

No one is perfect and tbh men can be stupid sometimes. You have to let them know so they can do better. If they do the same thing even though you communicated with them, then that can justify a break up. But doing something wrong once most of the time isn’t the end of the world.

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