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Girl Talk 13w
THIS! My bf didn’t really understand what consent was and that me not physically pushing him away or saying to stop wasn’t a yes. When I had told my friends they said to leave him but I sat down and had a talk with him about it after a while and…
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Girl Talk 13w
some men need to realize that a lot of SAers don’t realize they are SAers. that requires a level of self awareness, reflection, empathy, and education that some people who do that kind of thing truly do not have. they walk around thinking they’re “good”
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Anonymous 13w

The smarter thing a man can do is play dumb

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Anonymous 13w

We resolved the issue for the most part immediately. He started asking me if I wanted to have sex before going full send and was listening to it respectfully.

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Anonymous 13w

i think part of it is lack of education and part of it is being raised in a society that tells him he is entitled to women’s bodies. bc some of these things are moreso having common sense about what you’re allowed to do to another person. unfortunately young boys are groomed into believing they are allowed to do anything to a woman and therefore they internalize that and don’t feel compelled to think twice about it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

The other issues with consent that we had were related to him having zero sex education. Like he came in me without a condom one night and the next day he bought me plan B but I explained how harmful it was to my body and how it wasn’t just a cure all easy thing and I’ve never taken it again or had an issue with it. He has been super careful about wearing condoms and has even come to some medical appointments relating to birth control and using condoms

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

Another consent issue with something he was never taught was like anal, you can’t just try to put it in randomly. He tried that before and I’m like… that’s not how that’s gonna work anatomically, I need to prep beforehand and you have to explicitly ask to switch up like that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

True but my bf was genuinely clueless, I was his first and he had zero sex Ed at his schools or anything

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