I had a guy who best friend for FIVE years and then one day he sexually assaulted me because he thought that telling him about my crush on SOMEONE ELSE was saying that I wanted him and finally felt the same way he did. And then I said “I only ever wanted to be friends” and he said “no man will ever want to be just friends with a woman. Especially not you”. Not trying to brag. Because I was devastated that I lost one of my best friends. It really is soul crushing to be thought of only like that
your actual personality then maybe it sucks and you could stand to improve it. Or you’re wrong and need to give yourself more credit. But there’s no rule that says you can’t like and be attracted to the same person; guys do that all the time. There’s no magic switch in our head where thinking someone’s hot magically makes us hate them. Not for us anyway. Idk who told y’all there was but sincerely, sorry to anyone who fell for it
I’m sorry he attacked you, and yes i imagine that reflects that HE didn’t particularly value your friendship as itself. But perhaps that’s also a good reason not to take his words as gospel? Maybe all your guy friends DO wish for something more. But remember; there is a difference between “not wanting to be just friends” and “not wanting to be friends”. A guy can value your friendship whether or not he has any real hope for something more. Those are two diff functions. That’s how men can be fri