LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | The comments in this post have me thinking, would you consider a relationship to be straight if both people in the relationship are cisgender and of opposite genders, or would you only consider the relationship to be straight if both people are straight?

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LGBTQIA+ 10w

The comments in this post have me thinking, would you consider a relationship to be straight if both people in the relationship are cisgender and of opposite genders, or would you only consider the relationship to be straight if both people are straight?

Ask Men 10w

as a queer woman in a relationship with a straight man, i feel like he doesn't respect my queerness. mainly bc he likes kinda refuses to acknowledge it.

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Anonymous 10w

Straight relationship doesn’t mean both people are inherently straight, just that they are opposite sex imo. But ultimately it just depends on individual people’s definitions. If a heterosexual couple decides they want to be called a queer relationship because one or both people are queer, then all the more power to them. Some couples with one or both partners gender-fluid or other gender identities will still call their relationships straight or heterosexual so it’s up to the couple really.

Anonymous 10w

I think that I would consider the people as queer if they are, but the relationship straight in a way? Like a bi man dating a straight woman is still bi, but their relationship to society is not questioned because it is a man and woman, and they kinda benifit from the perceived straightness in a way that outwardly queer couples don’t.

Anonymous 10w

Like, for instance, if a cisgender bisexual women was in a relationship with a cisgender straight man, would you consider that to be a straight relationship or something else?

Anonymous 10w

bi women stop defending your homophobic jakeys challenge 2025

Anonymous 10w

Okay, this is what I thought. However, someone else in the quoted post (#3) pointed out that, prior to OOP very recently coming out as gender nonconforming, for the majority of their relationship together where OOP had identified as a cisgender bisexual woman, her relationship with her man was a straight relationship, even though she as a person was queer.

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mother_russia 10w

I think of it as a gay relationship or homosexual relationship doesn’t define each partner’s sexuality, like just bc I’m in a lesbian relationship doesn’t mean we are both lesbian type deal, so same applies to straight relationships, but that’s just me.

Anonymous

OP 10w

OOP then responded to that person saying: “Even before I was non-conforming saying I’m in a straight relationship when I’m not straight is erasing my bisexuality. I prefer straight passing.”

Anonymous

OP 10w

And after further discussion in the comments, OOP then said: “You just can’t grasp the concept of how I don’t consider myself in a heterosexual relationship because you yourself are not queer, and that’s okay. I don’t know how to explain it to you any better but I suggest doing more research on the sexuality diaspora if you so choose and I kindly ask you to stop saying I was in a heterosexual relationship.”

Anonymous

OP 10w

So, as I cis straight individual myself who agreed with #3 from the quoted post regarding this, I figured I would follow her advice and ask queer people in this community what their take on this is.

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Anonymous

OP 10w

Yeah straight passing is a totally valid way to identify that relationship, especially since they changed their gender identity, but even before that’s totally an acceptable way to categorize or identify their relationship!

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Anonymous

#1 10w

Very true!

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Anonymous

OP 10w

I think a big thing that people outside of the queer community have a hard time with is having strict definitions for labels and semantics. In the queer community, it’s recognized that no strict definitions will fit everyone and not everyone goes in the same box, so rather than labels defining who you are, you define your labels. If a queer relationship is any relationship with a queer person, that’s great. If a queer relationship is a relationship that is actively homosexual, cool!

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Anonymous

OP 10w

The only thing that truly matters is understanding that everyone will have different definitions or interpretations and to listen and respect their personal labels.

Anonymous

OP 10w

that's a straight relationship

Anonymous

#3 10w

inb4 the OP of that thread comes in here to tell me she's not a woman despite referring to herself as one multiple times in that thread

Anonymous

#3 10w

Anonymous

#3 10w

Also like??? She wanted to bring her straight bf to pride despite knowing he's homophobic??? This HAS to be bait I swear

Anonymous

OP 10w

It would definitely be a straight relationship but that doesn’t erase that the woman is queer nor any of her past experiences, him trying to talk you out of going to pride and socialize with your community shows me he either doesn’t understand or doesn’t respect your identity and how it affects you as a person