i do get the sentiment here. i think you’re just phrasing it a little aggressively. i’m a trans woman and knowing that a person doesn’t care about my genitals in a relationship would be very comforting. since sex isn’t a very important part of a relationship for me, i don’t want the person i’m dating to care about “which parts” i have. it’s definitely personal preference. i understand how it can feel hurtful! intentions don’t always come across. but that doesn’t make pan people chasers

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Honestly…. In my experience that is how a lot of pan people have interacted with me. Like no shade but the pan people in my life treat me like woman-ish and if they were a sexual prospect they’d always talk about their homosexual experiences????

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Thats not how its worded and if the issue is you feel like your being fetishized for being trans just say that??? Most bi/pan people I know say it up front because A. Brand of gay matters to some people B. Bi/pan - phobes are a thing. Fetishization of trans people is a problem, but call it out directly for what it is.

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I’m pretty sure most of the problem is her saying “pansexual is the chaser sexuality” which is… not a good stance when people are already a little up in arms

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yeah lmao

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i'm in the clear y'all 😮‍💨

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