Anonymous #1 13w

That’s what I thought too and then I was told that it’s serious 😭

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Anonymous #2 13w

I’m not offended, but I just don’t like people speaking on my behalf. I don’t speak for all nb people, but I know a lot of this is put out by non nb/trans people with good intention but misunderstanding our needs

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Anonymous #2 13w

(Though Latinx I just don’t like, not necessarily offended by)

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Anonymous #2 13w

The difference between folks and folx is basically that folks is passively gender neutral while folx is explicitly gender neutral, if that makes sense. The x comes from the womxn movement but it’s a misappropriation of it imo because it was intended to be “fuck the gender binary” but it comes off more as “fuck people who identify with the gender binary”

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Anonymous #2 13w

But ☝️ that’s queer history that most people don’t know. Most of us, including myself, don’t like it bcos it’s fucking stupid and I don’t wanna be explicitly othered from people who identify with the binary + it was largely co-opted by white liberals desperately trying to virtue signal

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Anonymous #3 13w

That makes sense, I just don’t tend to like the active vs passive gender neutral unless there isn’t a passive word that works. I can’t explain it’s it just feels odd to me

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Anonymous #3 13w

That’s fair! I don’t want to be separated like that either, maybe it’s stupid to say but it feels like trying to turn the gender binary to a gender trinary, which isn’t better

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Anonymous #3 13w

It bothers me that folks is like the only English word to get gender-neutralized (besides womxn I guess) like this. Is it because it’s a southern word? Is it because people assume southerns can’t be accepting? I explicitly denounce “folx” cause it sounds like something a white person from NY who thinks everything is racist even when their POC friends say it’s not would come up with - southerners can be accepting too!

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Anonymous #4 13w

You would not BELIEVE how many times that some white cis person has told me (a nonbinary Californian) not to call people “Dude” because “it’s not gender neutral” 😭 (I’m aware it’s not the same, but it’s a common thing I’ve had to deal with lol)

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Anonymous OP 13w

Bruh I haven’t gotten that bcos I’m in the south but I have gotten middle aged cis white women telling me not to call them dude because they’re a woman (one woman literally said “I’m not a dude, I’m a dudettte” 💀) I’ve always said, if a trans person has an issue with gendered language that’s socially gender neutral, I will ABSOLUTELY respect that but it’s rarely the case

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Anonymous #3 13w

I’m afab nb and I do not give a single fuck if someone calls me girl or bitch or dude or bro. It’s different to call me *a* girl, but being like “GIRL guess what” is a non issue and I say the same shit. And if a cis man tells me not to call him girl I’m in fact going to call him girl way more. But!! If a gnc person or trans person tells me not to call them that I’ll absolutely respect their wishes bcos I have brain cells 🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous #5 13w

I’ve never heard of nibling lol, that’s probably the only one of those I’d ever use. I’m personally just getting my PhD for the neutral title so I can get away from mister without having to use mx lol. Typically I just insist my colleagues call me either by my first name or just my last without a title, idrc about “titles are respect” or whatever lol, I’m just here to do my job

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Anonymous boariskarloff 13w

I thought it was a joke but I’ve been informed that it is serious 😭

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Anonymous #4 13w

as a southerner i’m pretty proud of y’all too! i really can’t think of anything else that isn’t a socially genderless but grammatically gendered word except chat, which also sounds stupid

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Anonymous #8 13w

Y’all means all RAAAAAH🤠🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

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