Anonymous #2 2w

You don’t try to fit in by tearing other people down/shitting on the other genders you experience attraction to. “Man hating lesbian” stereotype is wrong and worn out

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Anonymous #1 2w

It’s a reaction to people saying we aren’t queer enough, or we’ll definitely end up with a man in the end, or it’s a phase. Is it the right reaction? No, but I think it deserves some consideration

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Anonymous #2 2w

I understand that, but instead of allowing it to excuse the behavior, we should still call it out as rightfully harmful

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Anonymous #1 2w

Hm, I don’t know man. I really don’t think pointing out it could be in response to another phenomenon or in response to poor treatment is equivalent to excusing it?

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Anonymous #3 2w

But it can be when we don’t use any language that indicates our understanding that it isn’t helpful nor healthy. “Have you considered” implies validation and some acceptance. Which we shouldn’t do! Yes I have considered that, because I myself am bi and I myself have been attacked by lesbians in lesbian spaces over it, but that does not mean it makes the behavior ok

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Anonymous #2 2w

well, there are better ways to fit into the queer community without shitting on your boyfriend, you can go to queer events, support queer artists + filmmakers, etc, most lesbians really don’t care who you date unless they’re like. a terminally online femcel and those people’s opinions don’t really matter…

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Anonymous OP 2w

Exaaaactly op. Very well said

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Anonymous OP 2w

Agreed! But I don’t think 2 said that they aren’t better ways? I promise if I misunderstand something, I’m not trying to be pedantic or annoying!

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Anonymous #3 2w

Right, but 2 ONLY gave an excuse for the behavior. They didn’t recognize it as harmful, nor offer a correction

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Anonymous #1 2w

I said “is that the right reaction? No” which is hardly glowing praise.

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Anonymous OP 2w

I agree! There are better ways! I do think you’d be surprised how many people do care though

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