Also I hate it because of the exact reason you quoted. Why are men trying to nudge themselves in a space that literally isn’t for them? If someone whose amab wants to explore their identity and identifies as a woman lesbian (which is totally fine, I have no issue with exploring identity), but later realizes that he actually isn’t a woman (which again, TOTALLY FINE to detransition) is this cis man who likes women still allowed to identify as a lesbian because he was a lesbian for a year or two?
I think this whole “trans men being lesbians” is people just not understanding the difference between trans masc and trans men. Because transmasc can totally identify as lesbians because masc≠men. Trans MEN = men. If someone wants to be a lesbian THAT badly, maybe they’re just transmasc. If they feel that they are truly MAN, then they cannot be a lesbian.