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The shame I feel, the guilt I feel. It’s immense. I just feel numb. If I could take their pain and bear it, I would. Maybe it’s best I remove myself from their life for as long as they need to heal, until they’re ready?
I wish the toll was felt earlier. Not quite there. Or asked how they were more. How do I live with myself until they’re ok? I can never forgive myself. They literally sacrificed parts of themself to save me. How do I repay that? WHAT DO I DO TO HELP THEM
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Anonymous 2d

Be there for them in their time of need

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Anonymous 2d

I want you to know this is not 100% on you. She is also accountable for allowing herself to give so much of herself to you to help. You may have crossed the line or gone over, but if she was not communicating this it’s not fair to expect you to know especially when everything is as usual. You may need to look and see if you take advantage of people, it’s okay if you do, you can be better and work on how to fix that, you are not defined by the past only the now. I have BPD as well and

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

I’m think presence would do them more harm than good at the moment. I sent them a message and I will now support them with all I have at a distance. Even if distancing hurts me, I will make that sacrifice because no one deserves genuine happiness more than them

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I struggle with seeing the full picture and attempting to place blame, it is always shared in some way in situations like this. Take her comments to heart and improve but don’t allow them to define you, realize she may be experiencing pain she doesn’t recognize and might be projecting some unwarranted feelings. Communicate to her how badly you feel and how you will be better to her. Good luck I hope you can repair it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

no i know, her and i talked about that. she said she apologizes and didn’t know it was effecting her so much til some other stuff in her life happened. i told her not to be sorry for anything she did. she made my fear of being a burden disappear so much that through all the heavy stuff i laid on her i stopped asking if she could handle it. and she again reminded me im not a burden, she just tired from many things

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

i think she def wants space from me. idk her infractions with me vs some others, i got the feeling i’d be doing more harm trying to be there for her rn. i told her ill be here to listen if she needs someone going through similar things with her but that id give her the space she needs to heal

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