Anonymous #1 18w

Fr not even a “I don’t like him” defense. Girl probably knew she was wrong the second she posted

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Anonymous OP 18w

I don’t think it’s wrong for someone to be uncomfy with a man she doesn’t know in her apartment lmao especially if he’s spending the night

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Anonymous #2 18w

That’s fine, but she has to communicate that that’s the problem, not just say “no”.

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Anonymous OP 18w

I think no is enough seeing as she pays bills there.

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Anonymous #3 18w

But as the roommate brought up, she’s not the only one paying the bills. Yes, she gets some veto power over who can and can’t stay in the apartment, but it sounds like she’s never given any reason why not, not even a simple “I’m not comfortable with overnight guests”. It’s coming off as saying no just because she can, at least to the roommate it is.

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Anonymous OP 18w

I just don’t feel like everything needs to be a tireless debate. Like she said no. End of story. Why does there need to be so much communication for every little thing. She doesn’t need to know why.

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Anonymous #3 18w

No, not every little thing needs an explanation, but this is not a little thing. This is a boundary that potentially interferes with the roommate’s right to have guests in a shared space. Boundaries like that need explanation, even if just a simple one. This is also clearly causing issues between them and needs to be discussed to avoid a hostile living arrangement.

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Anonymous OP 18w

I feel like you’re assuming wayyy to much here from a two line post

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Anonymous OP 18w

Also, having guests and having a boyfriend over are two completely different things. If it was like, her mom, I could see the issue. But only one of those “guest” has the potential to stay overnight regularly, use your shower, eat your food, and be part of the cause of very uncomfortable noises at night. It’s just a whole can of worms that I understand wanting to shut down completely.

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Anonymous #3 18w

Ok then she can say that to her roommate. It’s also been my experience on here that when someone only gives us two lines on here with no further context they’re intentionally trying to seem justified. Sure it’s an assumption but an assumption based on previous data.

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Anonymous OP 18w

Making it sound scientific doesn’t make it any less of an assumption. It’s literally yikyak bro.

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Anonymous #3 18w

There’s nothing scientific about that, it’s just my experience. Why are you fighting this so much?

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Anonymous OP 18w

I’m really not. Most of my replies have been relatively short. You’re the one making essays over a situation we will never truly know about. I honestly don’t care. I’m just bored.

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Anonymous #3 18w

Well I’m bored too so I guess we’re just two bored people

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