I didn’t have a nonbinary phase, I was always very binary but when I looked masc I did go by they/them and a more neutral variation of my deadname and when I eventually came out as my actual self there were people casually just like “yeah I didn’t really believe in the whole nb thing” or “thanks for not picking they/them cause it would have been confusing” smh I don’t want to hear your nb-phobia just cause I’m not nb to you anymore 😭