Most women don’t even get the chance to know me or my values before deciding they’re not interested, so my going to Pride, voting for Kamala, doing multiple charities for planned parenthood, and generally having liberal ideals means jack shit. Being ugly affects both sides of the aisle and I’m sick of this idea that it doesn’t matter what you look like as long as you’re a liberal/good person.
Because a significant amount of the time they’ll either stop responding, unadd me, or block me after they see what I look like. That’s a sizeable minority but much of the rest of the time, they’ll just stop responding as much or do the one word response thing. That plus I have stuff on my dating profiles about how I’m liberal/left leaning and I don’t get any matches. They judge me before they even know me.
You used biased, cherrypicked observations (you only remember non-looksmatched pairings because they stand out to you) to try and tell me my thoroughly observed data was wrong. No wonder I’m gonna try and defend myself. In a normal conversation hopefully you wouldn’t act like that immediately out of the gate
You mean your anecdotal evidence. You just claiming things don’t make those things true. In a normal conversation maybe you would engage honestly and understand what people are saying when they say it. And then maybe after they said it, you could take the time; the 3 seconds it would take, to not cry about being “prejudged”
My original comment doesn’t have any untrue statements at all. I pointed out my experience and said “looks clearly do matter and dating is not purely meritocratic” and for some reason that made you VERY defensive so I’m thinking you may feel unconsciously that I called you shallow, in spite of you not even commenting before me.
I didn’t make an untrue or generalised statement. That’s not a hypothetical we have to talk about because that’s not what happened. The fact is that you are being defensive because you don’t practice what you preach. Given what you said about “chopped guys with absolute baddies” I think my hypothesis is correct. You never said “I have dated some chopped guys because they were good people”
Your only evidence of that is self-report data but we could make two tinder accounts right now and have one hot guy who lists himself as conservative and one average guy who lists himself as liberal and the hot guy would get more matches every single time. This experiment has been done before. Women saying they’d choose the average guy is social desirability bias.
You mean anecdotal evidence, is what I’m referring to. The thing you implied wasn’t true when I told you what I told you. How about this, prove most women, that includes all of them, everywhere, would prefer a trump supporting guy, over a less attractive liberal guy. Show the proof.
Every experiment ever done on the subject has proven that physical attractiveness is the most important factor in dating, far more than politics, but if you wanna pay me to create two fake tinder profiles and test it both here and when I go back to school, go for it. I’m not doing that for free considering I’m already working on a different experiment for my honors thesis.